"That sucks."
- Common phrase
What happens when things DO NOT work your way? You feel that sick empty feeling of dissatisfaction. Unlike children that participate in league sports these days, many of us DO know what it feels like to FAIL or LOSE. We know that we do not want to feel that and so we do as much as ABLE to prevent it.
No person wants to feels pain – physical, emotional, psychological or other (if there is an "other"). This is why we go to work, pay our bills, hit the gym, etc. Yet, we can only CONTROL so much.
What happens when we do get DISAPPOINTED? What happens when we disappoint OTHERS? What are the best ways in dealing with these situations..?
2 DEGREE SUCCESS STEP:
The best way to MANAGE disappointment – internal and external – is to LEARN from it and then OWN it. What does that mean?
First, taking the opportunity to LEARN from the shortcoming of a situation is the most EFFECTIVE way to prevent it from occurring again. If you ANALYZE the components of the failure, understand your role, the roles of others and gauge the points at which alternative decisions could have been made, then you will be ARMED with the knowledge to OVERCOME when the situation is to arise again (and it will).
Additionally, understand, CLEARLY, that you have played SOME role in the situation, thus DO NOT blame others. Sh*t happens, right? Sure. So own your portion of it and learn from the other part. If you discover that other people aid in the failure, analyze if they should be replaced or are even needed!
Lastly, do not be afraid to VENT. Hey, you are upset – that is cool. Let it out. You will feel better afterwards. (Be mindful if you let it out on someone, you might hurt that relationship).
Cheers,
Zach
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